Amy Childs

I’m not sure I want to stay married to my husband but I don’t want to get divorced either. I don’t see any answers, and I’m afraid to talk about it with him because I don’t know how to say what I want and I don’t think he’ll understand. Can you help?

Usually when we feel trapped between two unbearable options, there is a third (and sometimes a fourth, fifth and sixth) alternative that we haven’t yet uncovered. I love helping clients discover these. Many people suffer in marriage relationships because a traditional paradigm doesn’t work for them. I encourage couples to create new agreements based on what they really want. This can involve stepping out of the box into a new (and therefore scary) paradigm which doesn’t insist on following the rules that old paradigms do. It can be difficult to talk openly about feelings and desires because we’ve been programmed to be suspicious of ourselves and tend to believe that some feelings thoughts and desires are unacceptable. I offer support for couples who are challenging the status quo, telling the truth, and creating a relationship that supports who they truly are and what they really want.

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